I’m sitting in my room. There’s no electricity. Thanks T&TEC. There’s no hum from the air conditioner… All the familiar background noises have gone mute. There’s a stillness in the air and it’s silent.
I’m not distracted by the flicker of notifications on my phone, I’m not scrolling through my Instagram feed during every dull moment. I’m not penning my latest frustration to update my Twitter feed, and I’m not browsing Facebook to see who’s with who… (Although if my WiFi were still up, I’m pretty sure I’d tweet something passively aggressive about this ordeal.)
I finally have time. And… *ouch* Like a ton of bricks to the face (or like a smartphone to the face when you’re sleepy) it hit me.
We all complain that we don’t have nearly enough time in the day to get things done.. Whether we mean that in terms of up keeping relationships or chasing our dreams. According to a familar meme, ain’t nobody got time for that! Ain’t nobody got time for anything! AHH!
PLOT TWIST: We do have time. We’re just so caught up in the habits of this century that are now so deeply engrained that we don’t see it.
The habits of yesteryear were limited to perhaps TV time and the occasional MSN conversation or music session held via ipods and Walkmans…
But we still found time and ways to integrate those activities with the people around us.
Today, we’re glued to an endless supply of distraction courtesy, our faithful friend, The Internet. We have dinner parties or hangout sessions and sleepovers… but half the time our faces are lit aglow by our trusty smart phones and iPads.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m an Instagram addict myself, and I’m on several different social media platforms. I’m guilty too, but the reality of how this trend has slowly crept into my life and stolen much of my attention has hit me in a displeasing way.
When’s the last time you were forced to face people or your problems without the buffer of social media?
Think about it for a second. Not being able to vent or post somewhere creates a whole new thinking space that challenges your mind and emotions… It challenges your originality.
We fill all of our spare moments clicking, scrolling and browsing… and not nearly enough time thinking or reflecting. It’s a habit we’ve all developed. We also develop strong emotions about the media we interact with… and as we all know in internet land, everything looks way more perfect than it actually is.
So, before you decide that you absolutely need a boyfriend and feel lonely after seeing the 73 likes on that cute couple’s instagram… stop to consider whether those are really your emotions or whether you’re simply reacting to what you see…
If you are… Reacting isn’t living… and that means it’s about time to perhaps consider stepping away from your phone and regrouping.
Spending one on one time with your friends in the absence of these distractions really changes the game, and your perspective too.
Take time to appreciate the little things… I’ve been trying my best to be mindful of how often I pick up my phone to aimlessly scroll through my feeds, and it’s still a work in progress – but I’m AMAZED by how much more time I have and how much sweeter it is to spend time with the people I love sans distraction!
It’s also a breath of fresh air to not be swayed by what I see… so that I march to the beat of my own drum. I love the occasional break, even moreso than I enjoy a good snap story. Much like everything in life, it’s all about balance.
Try it! Tell me how it goes… I’d love to know how you managed to find the perfect balance.