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Timing is Everything

May 4, 2019

Timing is everything, in photography and life. More on that later.

Many may not know, but newborn photography has been a passion of mine for yearsssss. I don’t mean 2-3 years…. I mean, nearly two decades. I’ve spent this time (starting back in 1999) admiring the works of artists like Anne Geddes after seeing her incredible work in a coffee table book at a doctor’s office. Talk about divine intervention right?! The very first time I saw one of her images featuring a beautiful, tiny premature baby being held by mighty masculine hands, I was hooked. There was no Instagram at this time, so I searched every book store and library whenever I traveled abroad, hoping to find more of her books, as I could never get her images out of my mind. 

I have always loved babies and children, I’ve always been passionate about family life, and photography/design have always been great outlets for me to express myself. 

I’ve had a burning desire to go after this passion, but I’ve also been crippled by doubt many times as the very artists that inspire me also intimidate me when I think to myself, “What if I’m never as good?” or “What if I fail?”. So, I put off the pursuit of photography many times after those thoughts swirled around my head. However, today I’ve decided to let go of that fear and share some of my work. I’ll start with just one photo, and maybe open up to sharing a few more as I feel lead. You’ve gotta start somewhere right?  

Some may not understand, but – picture yourself getting onto a stage to perform in front of millions – isn’t that a little scary?

Wouldn’t you feel a bit nervous at the thought of singing or performing before people you’ve probably never even met? To me – that’s what it’s like. My photography carries so much of my personal taste, experiences, emotions and dreams…  from the little photos I may share on my Insta Stories of my desk cacti, all the way to big family moments – each carries a part of my story, and I almost feel as though that’s my way of journaling… so I take it seriously that someone out there may judge me harshly. 

I know that the opinions of the world don’t need to shape my life, but that’s just the way I choose to be wired, I’m still figuring out the right balance. 

Anyway, it’s a relief and a little scary sharing some of my work – but I hope this keeps me accountable and pushes me to open up a bit more. I’ll continue my thoughts in another post, as soon as I can carve out a little more time… but.. 

Here’s to chasing dreams, no matter how old, and breaking through the barriers of fear.

May you all do the same with your own passions 🙂

Aimee. 

PS: Yep, this is my image, my work, but unfortunately not my baby. This handsome boy belongs to my friend’s sister and her hubby. Isn’t he CUTE??? The only awful part of newborn portraiture is that you can’t keep the baby. I tried to steal him, but apparently that’s illegal or something.

Inspiration, Lifestyle, Love, Photography

Happily Ever After – Shareek and Krysta

July 17, 2018

We’ve read the books, we’ve seen the movies. Social media has drowned us in thoughts of what the perfect relationship, marriage and wedding should look like. What all of the above don’t tell you is that not everyone portraying perfected images in the limelight is actually genuinely in love with their lives.

That’s not the case for one beautiful human being, whose wedding I had the honour of attending this weekend. Allow me to share my thoughts from a little magical event that happened last night. I wrote this, in the moment:

As I sit at her wedding reception, awaiting the return of the bride and groom after the ceremony… suddenly a warmth of emotion sweeps over me.

I’m sitting at the wedding of the one and only Krysta, who has placed my name on a delicate marbled coaster, at my carefully chosen seat on a table designed from her very heart. This bride chose every single detail with such a genuine soul that I swear as if by magic, I can feel her kindness and love while sitting here taking in the gorgeous décor around. There’s something so distinctly different about everything here. I’ve been to weddings before, I’ve celebrated so many beautiful people and marriages, but this one has me a bit choked up. Somehow, this is THE big day for Shareek and Krysta, yet here I AM, feeling as though I’m the guest of honour. From the personalised invitations, (which even included a cookie… in case I got hungry while being invited lol)… all the way to this moment, it’s as though it was planned to ensure that I was comfortable and welcomed. AND… I’m sure all of her other guests felt the same! Crazy right?

That actually sums up what it’s like to know Krysta and a big part of why I feel so emotional. Krysta puts the needs of others before herself. She is thoughtful, she is kind. She’s humble and has damnnnn good taste in everything… because it all flows from her heart. So many people love pretty things (and that’s fine I suppose) but they love them just for the sake of appearances. Krysta’s love for beautiful things is almost always rooted to ensuring that the people around her are well pleased… – and that my friends – is beauty within.

It’s a trait I’m working on, in myself and people like Krysta remind me of the type of person I ought to be. (I should also mention, she and her fiancé were two of the most marvellously complementing individuals I’ve ever seen… and I do believe as the bride summed it up in her speech – they share a symbiotic relationship that allows them each to blossom and grow into incredible people both individually and as a couple).

I’ve decided that I wanted to share these quick shots from last night as a reminder to myself that beauty of this kind, on the the outside… only shines if it comes from a deep place within. This was a wedding that I’ll never forget, and a couple that I’ll always support. Thanking you again Krysta for always being a literal ray of rose-gold tinted sunshine in a world that can sometimes feel so overcast. I revelled in every moment of the romantic setting you two created, beneath the open skies and drizzles. If only every day could be like that. Wishing you, and your sweet Shareek happily ever after…

*spoiler alert* they really will live happily ever after and maybe even decide to adopt me as their first child. 

The way every groom ought to look at his bride…

His radiant view…

We all teared up by this point. Even the skies showed emotion, with joyful drizzles pouring over us.

The mist!!!!

Even the drinks were cute!

His vows. One word. Wow.

*fans self dramatically over these two*

Her vows. We were all feeling their romance. The entire guest list became their willing third-wheel at this point, as their love overtook the venue. I also listened so intently to what they were saying that I felt as though I became a part of the marriage too. (Yes, yes, I’m a sappy romantic – but to be fair, they brought it on).

Can we just take a moment to zoom in on some details though?

Also… the maid of honour… oh so chic!

Elegance with the gentle touches of rose gold!

Those aren’t tears in my eyes… they’re raindrops… *wipes eyes*

*cheers of joy erupting* (I was trying very hard not to smudge my eye-makeup here. I mean, after all, I was at the wedding of a make-up guru… no pressure… *nervous giggle*)

 

Forever, and for always.

All images © Aimee Melyssa 2018. If you decide to use any of these images, or excerpts from my blog, please be sure to include credits or tags. Thank you! – Aimee.

Featured, Love

A Mother’s Day Tribute

May 13, 2018

The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines a ‘mother’ as the source or origin of a thing. It also describes the term as a transitive verb meaning:

1. a: to give birth to
b: to give rise to; produce

2. to care for or protect like a mother

Why’d I consult a dictionary on this? I needed to understand the formally accepted definition of “a mother.” 

“But, why?”, you ask? You see… my mother has always been above and beyond all understanding of any definition of what a mother is, and ought to be.

Her LOVE, her PATIENCE, her COMPASSION, and her GRACE, go far beyond allllll that I could ever comprehend.

I ask myself:

How can one person give 110% of herself to everyone, and everything, EVERY-SINGLE-DAY without allowing the edges and thorns of others to detract from her intention to deliver her best?

How does one become so sacrificial that she is able to deny herself anything and everything to secure the happiness and approval of someone else? (I’m the someone else).

How does one person posses the love of an endless ocean, defend their child with the strength of an army, and allow them-self to be the wind beneath their child’s proverbial wings without asking for even an ounce of gratitude or anything else in return?

HOW can one love someone despite their flaws, despite their bad days, their inabilities, and all other humanistic defects????????

I don’t know. I truly do not have the answers to the questions of “How?“, above.

But I do know one thing. My mother is the “WHO”, to the above “HOW??” She is the only person I know, who can do all and be all that I’ve said. 

She is a defying act to everything that I have ever learned or experienced. I cannot fathom her heart; I know not where it begins nor ends, and I do not believe her grace knows any bounds.

If you know me at all, I am one who is strong on limits. I believe everything that bends, may break.

But, my dearest mom is without limits… and I am far undeserving of this treasure I somehow managed to acquire.

She is beyond any definition that exists, and greater than anything that anyone has ever seen. There is not a single person on this planet that I believe in more, and she is greater than I can ever hope to be. I still don’t know how she is mine, but I do know that she is incredible.

To the mom who’s name breathes who she is: I stand in awe. You are more than I could have prayed for, and better than any mom I could dream of ever having.

You are more than the definition claims a mother to be, I’d say you’re the definition 2.0

Happy Mother’s Day mom, I love you always.

PS: Here are a couple reasons to validate everything else I’ve written, in pictorial form. Please note that I will not be liable for any embarassment caused. I also want to say that these are all scanned images… so this serves as proof that I do actually love you, else I’d have gone the digital route like all the other lame daughters out there..

BE SURE TO READ THE CAPTIONS!

It’s been us from the very start, taking on the world together. (Aruba? Venezuela? I can’t remember. Too many pigeons. PTSD)

You’ve made me laugh. (That’s your hand right there.)

You’ve been there when I cried. (Even when tears were probably over stupid things… like this right here… this is at Epcot…) *** Friends please note my impeccable style, and original Baby-G Digital Wristwatch. 😎

Through big first’s (like graduating pre-school… even though I probably only actually stayed in school 13% of the time and I cried every single day..) *** You’re not in this one, because you took it 🙂

First day of Primary school, and you still managed to look beautiful. (Note to Past-Aimee: WIPE THAT GRIN OFF YOUR FACE, SCHOOL WILL NEVER MAKE YOU THAT HAPPY!!!!! You’re going to hate it, even when you’re 26 😂)

You’ve been there supporting me… even when I was clearly embarrassing. (PLEASE NOTE MY IMAGINARY FRIEND seen most prominent here, in Hawaii…) *** I decided to fulfil my childhood imagination goals through Photoshop so that I look less strange to be so proud of my “friend” making the photo.

You’ve fed me. You let me wear the most unusual fashion combos, even when on vacation in LA.

You made sure that I’m well-rounded and experienced. (Australia, feeding kangaroos).

But most importantly, you’ve never left my side. I’ll always look up to you, even though now I’m more like your mom. YES THAT’S RIGHT YOUNG LADY. 53 does not mean you can do whatever you want. NOW GO TO YOUR ROOM! *** Friends, I apologize for my slightly wack appearance…. as prefaced earlier, my fashion choices were questionable as were my haircuts.

Oh, and to anyone else reading this – Happy Mother’s Day to you too. May your love for your mom, and those like a mom around you grow stronger and bolder. If you’ve lost a mom, I can’t imagine what that’s like… but after knowing the love of a mom, I know too that it never fades… so may you be wrapped in the love of a mom always.

 

Lifestyle, Motivation, Photography, Travel

25 Things I Learned at 25

January 1, 2018

This year was certainly a very different one for me. It began like any other year and had challenges, hurts, and disappointments of its own… yet, it literally became one of the dreamiest years I’ve ever had. Maybe I’m wrong, but this, being my 25th year (an age I’ve always dreamt would carry a sense of wonder, awe, and accomplishment) was truly something out of the ordinary. I have had experiences, feelings, and situations in the past year that have completely changed the way I think, feel, and act. It’s a year I’ll never forget, since most of it either taught me something deeply revelational about my own history, or shifted something in me that will undoubtedly impact my future.

This post may sound a little bit dorky, or maybe just plain stupid, but I think the more honest you become with yourself and with others, the more ridiculous you risk seeming. So, I’m taking the risk.

As I was saying, this world has become more and more jet puffed with superficial egos, filtered feelings and more hidden agendas than I can make sense of. We all live in a world that is so concerned with how things look… that most of us don’t even pause to think deeply enough about how things really are. Even I have been deluded by my own desire to make sure that I “seem” a certain way. That is, until this year unfolded.

I’m a social media lover, I loveeee seeing and sharing endless feeds of pictures and stories- but this year I took on a challenge to ensure that I didn’t glorify myself, my lifestyle or any of the “things” around me. I decided I wanted to literally change the way I did things and “see what would happen”. For example, I took less selfies, I stopped posting regularly on social media, I paused to listen more… I stopped to look people in the eye and read their facial expressions or body language more than before. I stopped to carefully live each moment. I tried to be more present. I tried to smell the air around me, feel the concrete beneath my feet, and take in the sights and sounds around me. I made it my mission to take in every new experience as if it would be my last, and the results were mind-blowing.

I feel as though the mental energy I gave to being more present, being more focused on what was around me and paying less attention to how things were perceived by anyone else freed me of the pressure to “seem” anything different than my truest self. I found hidden beauty in some people, and found truth in others. I saw situations more clearly, and felt less burdened.

I literally gained the most I ever have in a single year. I crossed items like exploring a new city alone off my bucket list, finished my masters, got officially certified in a few passions, won a dream trip to meet one of my inspirations, and began taking steps towards making my other dreams a reality.

Anyway, as I sit here (in a little New York Cafe, on a trip here by myself, where I’ve been able to do some soul searching away from the noise and clutter of my usual world) I’ve compiled a list of twenty-five things I’ve learned in my 25 years of life… the lessons that impacted me most, the ones I want to hold onto as I trek out upon my next 25.

I thought to note them as a reminder to myself of who I am, who I hope to become and hopefully as a note to anyone else still searching or in need of some gentle advice. These have been tested and proven in my own life, I hope that maybe at least one or two of you out there might agree or even teach me something I can add. Here they are, the 25 things I’ve learned by age 25.

    1. You are never too old or too young to follow your wildest dreams.
    2. Don’t complain too much about waiting. Everything really does happen in the right timing.
    3. Your parents deserve a lot more respect for all that they do. Being an adult is incredibly complicated when you have a family depending on you.
    4. Not everyone you meet means everything they say.
    5. Laugh more. Even when you’re fuming, laughter is almost always the perfect way to deal with a situation (unless that situation is death, in which case laughing may be considered inappropriate).
    6. The problems you have are often 50% because of your own mindset or attitude. Improve by adjusting accordingly.
    7. Be kind to everyone you meet. It pays huge dividends and always comes back to you.
    8. Let yourself off the hook sometimes.
    9. Work hard. At everything. Always give 100%.
    10. You’re never going to please everyone.
    11. You’ll never be perfect, but you’ll always be perfectly you. Although- it doesn’t hurt to always try to do better or improve “you”.
    12. Grandparents and seniors know so much more than Google.
    13. Listen. Listen more than you speak.
    14. Don’t be afraid to back down in arguments. You may lose the battle but may win the war.
    15. Apologies should always be sincere. Mean it!
    16. Look people in the eyes… and less at your phone.
    17. There’s a whole world out there bigger than you, get over yourself. Learn to be humble.
    18. Your passion will find you, once you know exactly who you are.
    19. Spend time getting to know yourself. Who are you really? What do you actually love? What are your passions?
    20. God is literally always ready to hold your hand and lead you. Just ask Him.
    21. If you must spend, buy experiences over things.
    22. Money is a wonderful bonus to have, it enables you to do extraordinary things, but it won’t fix your problems.
    23. Try new things. (Within reason and safety.)
    24. Love people with all your might, even if they don’t reciprocate or understand it, just know how much to show and give…
    25. Above all things, guard your heart… for everything you do flows from it.

(Also, below are a few photos from my NY getaway, and the trip that allowed me to digest all these life-lessons while plotting my next step. Onto 2018!).

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Adventure, Lifestyle, Travel

I really thought I knew it all…

March 1, 2017

If you’re a Trini, then you’ve probably heard of all the ‘places of interest’ that our twin-republic has to offer. I thought I knew it all and had seen it all having read all the magazines and seen all the Facebook posts. WRONG.

There are so many treasures throughout our islands that are yet to be experienced. Recently, I’ve been shackled to my desk thanks to work of varying sorts, but in an attempt to destress and remain sane, I decided to escape at least one day over the Carnival weekend and see the infamous “Caroni Bird Sanctuary” for myself. Sitting still with minimal need for movement seemed like a brilliant weekend idea for my tired mind.

I didn’t think much of what it might turn out to be… but boy was I wrong. I absolutely loved every second of the winding channels that lead to lush mangroves packed with these glorious scarlet creatures I barely paid attention to in primary school! They were breath-taking. (Truly deserving of being our National Bird).  Maybe I’ve been so preoccupied with the hustle and bustle of life that it amazed me more than the average Jane, but I had to at least get someone else to bask in its beauty. So-if you’ve seen it already, then hopefully you share my sense of awe, but if you haven’t then you really need to! I won’t share too many details, but if you’re one who appreciates the little things in life, then this is definitely for you.

You can find out more at the official website for the Caroni Bird Sanctuary, or take a look at the impromptu timelapse I tried to catch with my phone while I absorbed the hidden beauty that I never new existed about 20 minutes from home.

If you’ve got any local treasures you think are bucket-list-worthy, feel free to let me know! Next up, I’m thinking the Gasparee Caves!

Faith, Inspiration, Lifestyle, Motivation

A year of change, a year of difference…

December 31, 2016

Can you believe this year has already come to an end?! I feel as though just last week I was saying “I can’t believe 2015 is over!”… and somehow, we’ve jumped to 2017. Woah. Crazy right?

This year was surely something different for me personally, but more on that later.

I’ve heard so many times in the last 366 days (yep, this was a leap year) of the struggles and difficulties that those around me have been enduring. I’ve seen the tears, I’ve heard the stories. There have been losses and tragedies all around. Even in my own life there were disappointments and times when I thought I couldn’t face what might be ahead. There was so much uncertainty… I had no idea how 2016 would end, or how I would make it through.

But I did!! and you made it too! What a beautiful ending right?

I feel as though 2016 was a novel that confused me until the end. As I sit reminiscing on all that this year has brought, I don’t think of all the times when things were tough. I look at myself and I see all that I have become because of all that happened. I see all of those who have made it through their tough times and overcome obstacles. I see people who have grown and built stronger character. I see little moments that on their own didn’t make sense, but altogether formed a beautiful picture. I see a version of myself that I’m truly embracing and I appreciate each moment that I’ve lived.

I prayed on New Year’s Eve 2015 that this year would be a year of change… and that prayer was surely heard and answered. I didn’t think at the time that asking for change would mean so many challenges… but I see now that what you ask for may not come in the way you imagine. God has a funny way of doing things, but in the end, so long as you hold onto your faith and do the best you possibly can, things really do work out.  So don’t despair when what you’ve been hoping for doesn’t come in the way you expected.

“For My thoughts are not your thoughts, nor are your ways My ways.” – Isaiah 55:8

I’m sure if you take a look at your own life, you’ll find many lessons now etched into the fabric of your mind. The experiences, the hurts, the let downs have taught you how to be stronger, how to avoid future troubles. They’ve transformed you in some way or the other, and you couldn’t possibly graduate to the next phase of life had things gone any differently.

So when 2017 brings you something you don’t quite seem to like at first, don’t forget that there is purpose hidden in every experience, you never know if today’s hurt will become tomorrow’s stepping stone.

Wishing you all a beautiful year ahead and here’s to hoping that 2017 that takes you closer to the version of yourself you’re destined to be!

 

 

Faith, Featured, Friendship, Inspiration, Love, Photography

Love, Laughter and Happily Ever After – Jodi + Regan

March 17, 2016

It’s not everyday that you come across couples whose relationships have stood the test of time. I’ve seen social media swarming with new relationships and young love, and while there’s an adorable quality to all of it – I have always felt a sense of awe over couples that’ve grown up together and stayed true for years upon years. That’s where my true ‘awwwww’ moments are born.

Couples like my grandparents, who have honoured ’till death do us part’ and share generations of lessons, love, struggles and everything else that comes with a relationship have a different kind of structural integrity that I can’t help but admire. I only have a few couples in my life, and by few I mean like three… who have marriages and relationship stories that inspire me… and boy do I try to learn from them. It’s a rarity in this world, but social media often tells us that everyone has those amazing perfect relationships.

What social media doesn’t tell you is that it’s much more about getting through the rough than enjoying the #datenights. It’s about fighting for what you want, maintaining a firm grip on your beliefs, and striking a balance that mutually encourages, supports and strengthens both people involved. I believe the same goes for friendship. You have to choose friends who are willing to go through the tough times WITH you, knowing that the journey will be long, but will be worth it if you’re both heading towards well aligned goals.

If you’ve found that in a friendship, or relationship, I suggest you count your blessings and work at it to keep it going. Hold on to it tight, because it’s the stuff that so many only dream of. If you haven’t, there’s a time and season for everything – so take the time to improve yourself until you do.

For Jodi & Regan, the sister and brother in law of my dear friend Kade – they seemed to have found the perfect recipe that works for them. They seem to have found it, and are holding on tight! Being the lover of weddings, engagements and all the mushy stuff that I am –  I thoroughly enjoyed tagging alongto grab a few shots of their journey towards the big day. It was clear to see how well they fit together, and super inspiring. Shout out to all the dreamers out there (myself included) – it’s possible!

Here are a few shots from their engagement shoot… Stayed tuned for shots of their destination wedding!IMG_0183rblog

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If you decide to use any of these images, please link them back to me please or feel free to tag me!  🙂

All images © 2016 Aimee Melyssa

Faith, Lifestyle

Bethel Music: Spirit Move // Kalley Heiligenthal // Have It All

March 10, 2016

At various junctions in my life, I’ve come to the point where I’m not sure how to take a step forward… or even back. I feel immobilized by circumstances and feelings and have moments of total uncertainty. It’s as though the motivation and zeal to get through anything is being drained… Thankfully, I’ve triumphed over many of these moments via a simple formula: worship. I know it probably sounds clichéd and there are surely moments when I forget about this powerful tool and waste my time trying to find other ways to hold on… but when I remember the beauty that comes through music… specifically worship… oh wow… Let the catharsis begin!

Nothing picks me up, and dusts me off quite like music can. I just thought I’d share the album version of the song that’s currently taking me through and giving me the much needed pep in my step for this season.

Hopefully someone out there might find something in this song too. If you’ve never heard of them, please check out Bethel Music on YouTube. Their worship has been impacting my life ever since the first time I listened… I personally prefer their live versions, but I thought to include the album version as a starter.

 

Inspiration, Lifestyle, Motivation, Photography

3 Ways to Feel Less Crappy

February 10, 2016

We’ve all had those days where we feel drained, purposeless, empty, disconnected and as though life is passing us by, while all of our hopes and dreams are on some dejected shelf in the attic of our minds, slowly being hidden from consciousness by endless dust and spider webs.

If your life had a title at this point, it might sound something like ‘The Graveyard of Dreams’ or ‘Kill Me Now’. (or maybe you’re less cryptic than me- which is a good start.)

BUTTTTTTTT… WHY? Why do we get to these places… and worst of all… WHY DO WE STAY THERE?

Maybe it’s life, maybe you need to look at your beliefs, re-evaluate who you are versus where you want to be, or maybe you need to reconnect with God?

Regardless of why, or how you ended up in this ‘funk’… I’ve come up with 3 ways to help you feel less crappy….errr crapée?…  perhaps that sounds less crass *maniacal chuckle*.

1. Try something new. They say insanity is doing the same thing over and over, but expecting different results… and they were right! If you’ve been feeling demotivated, disconnected or just down right uninspired- try something you haven’t before. Do something you’ve wanted to but haven’t made steps towards. Maybe it’s new cuisine, a different genre of movie (probably not something too depressing), visit a tourist spot, or even try out a new attitude for size. We have a ton of activities available to us on this little island of Trinidad, just make the bold step of booking something and go. You may not feel like you even want to, minutes before trying whatever it is that you choose, but lead with your body and your mind will eventually follow. The hardest part of change is always the start, but believe me, it’ll be well worth your while.

2. Change up your physical environment. If you’re not employed and at home a lot, go out. Go to a nearby park, a mall, a theatre, somewhere that’s not a part of your weekly routine. If that doesn’t sound like it’ll help, change up your room or living space. For me, cleaning always helps me to feel better and the physical de-cluttering of a space provides me with a mental response where I end up feeling like I’ve de-cluttered my mind. WARNING: THIS PROCESS WILL NOT BE FUN. YOU MAY NOT WANT TO DO IT. However… you’ll thank yourself when you’re done. Who wants to clean, reorganize or leave the house after a long day, ESPECIALLY when you’ve been having a tough time? Certainly not you right? This is exactly why you should give it a try. Change is usually on the other end of trying something different. For me, I enjoy cleaning and DIY crafting, so this tip has always been my safety net. Hanging up some DIY artwork, buying a piece of art that makes me happy, or rearranging my furniture until the space feels different has been my therapy. A physical action almost ALWAYS cues a mental and emotional one. Again, do it even if you don’t feel like it, and eventually your mind (once willing) will follow.

3. Choose your battles. Everyday, you’re more than likely going to run into difficulties and challenges. You’re going to have interactions with all kinds of people. You’ll have to deal with the bigger stresses in life – like health, finances or relationship issues… and then there are the smaller stresses like difficult co-workers or ‘friends’ who don’t always rub you the right way. Throw it all together and it feels like a recipe for disaster.Life is a continuous balancing act, and often it feels like we’re closer to failure than success. HOWEVER, I’ve found that separating my situations into two distinct categories helps me to find way more success in the grand scheme of things: Important… and… Not-Important (yes, not very creative, I know). The important things are the ones that affect your future self; they create conflict regarding your future goals, and disrupt your life. The Non-Important ones are the little things you allow to get under your skin and frustrate you temporarily. These things are usually short lived, and won’t matter in a year, or ten… yet we spend time fussing over them anyway because we’re creatures of habit. For me, I try daily to decide whether my current stress, annoyance or frustration fits into either category. If it’s important – I take a deep breath and carefully try to find a way out. If it’s not important, I allow myself a few minutes to get it out of my system and redirect my focus to something else- while reminding myself ‘Aimee, it’s NOT that big of a deal. You need to stop wasting time, energy and emotions on this, and move onto something else. DO NOT REACT. I REPEAT. DO NOT REACT’. I often fail and get caught up on many insignificant issues, but when I remember to take control and give myself a timeline to either deal with the issue or just move on from it (if I have no control), it’s a breath of fresh air. You can’t win EVERY battle, but you can choose simply, to fight only the important ones.

In keeping with this blog post, and trying to swallow my own advice – I gave Tip #3 a try over the long weekend and ended up at the most northeasterly point of Trinidad… TOCO!  The colours, sights and clean chilling air were so incredibly refreshing that I’m already planning another visit. I couldn’t soak in enough of the views that surrounded me, and I actually loved that I left wanting more. A change of physical environment can be so empowering, as can a change in attitude. Give it a go! You won’t regret it. I know I certainly didn’t!

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